To much dating
Melissa wants to be clear: The whole idea of thinking about someone’s debt when you’re dating never really occurred to her for most of her life.For instance, the first few times Melissa went out with John (not his real name, for reasons that will become obvious shortly), she felt optimistic.
It’s not like carrying around student loans is an unfamiliar fact of life, especially to millennials.
“We started talking about getting married, and I guess her conscience finally got the best of her.
She told me that the “small, almost totally paid off” student loan she had was actually much bigger and she hadn’t been paying on it in years, plus she had some other debt, and was basically overwhelmed by all of it and didn’t really know how to go about dealing with it, so she just kinda hid from it.” For Rochelle, the big problem wasn’t even the money itself.
I’ve worked really hard to get where I’m at, so if I see that someone isn’t as proactive about their financial health and goals as I am, yeah, that’s a big red flag that we just aren’t compatible.
No judgment, but that’s just not the person for me.” And it makes sense.