Size gap dating
Listen, if I could do it over again, I may not have moved out of my parents' house as soon as I did.
I could've saved a ton more money, and essentially, my social life as it is wouldn't be any different.
Animal shelters are full of dogs and cats that are abandoned due to the owners not being able to afford the time and upkeep.
A dog, especially a puppy, isn't without a decent amount of expense and time.
Please note that Gaper is not an app for sugar daddy–sugar baby relationships.
He said that he has a very small “entertainment” budget (after he’s paid his bills and rent and he has two kids in a different state and he just got a puppy), so that whatever we do will have to not cost a lot or will need to be free.(If you’re curious who has paid on the first two dates - I bought him a beer on the 1st one because he met me last minute and I had an open tab. Second date was dinner and he bought one of my drinks and our appetizer and his food. Edit to add-he could also be trying to manipulate her into coming over so he can eat her brains. Usually by the third date you’re still making an effort to impress each other. When I met my man I wore sweats and a t shirt on our third date, which he cooked for me. If anyone on this sub is thinking of getting a dog or a puppy out of loneliness, I suggest looking into fostering first to be sure you can handle the care and scheduling.
For example, generally, you try to avoid people with two first names or those who abbreviate the word probably as “probs.” But you never know; that one awful abbreviator could be your soulmate.
When we started making specific plans, he suggested cooking for me and I said no, I’m not comfortable with going to your place since we are still getting to know one another. If he can’t afford to date, he shouldn’t be dating, and I question his decision to get a puppy, especially if he’s on a tight budget. Perhaps he’s budgeting for that, but it seems pretty doubtful. Shots, vet visits, unexpected vet visits, proper food, grooming, licensing, spay/nueter, kennel or dog bed, treats, chew toys, etc.
Or he doesn’t place a lot of value on frivolous expenditures and just doesn’t want to go out. You’re willing to dip into discretionary income in order to really make someone you’re interested in feel special. A lot of fostering systems cover the cost of food, supplies, and medical costs. He needs to figure out how to increase his income so that his obligation to his children, bills, and puppy don’t impact women trying to get to know him and settling for scrappy dates. It seems he’s one vet bill or child’s extracurricular activity away from not even being able to leave his house. I've paid for all the first few dates I've ever been on, I think, regardless of incomes.
It starts with how frequently they text, how surprised they are by phone calls as a mode of communication and how irresponsibly they handle getting back to people in a timely, appropriate fashion.
And naturally, it concludes with something like what I've experienced several times — a date that lasts no more than 45 minutes and feels like an absolute death march for the final 20.