Police policy on dating married woman
Develop hobbies and interests outside of your time with your law officer partner.
Hang out with friends, take up a new pastime and find ways to make your “me time” fulfilling.
S.—considering the birth rates and immigration rates—there are slightly more men than woman in the population per age group.
Also, traditionally it has been acceptable for younger women to date men who are considerably older; and by considerably I mean about 10 years older.
Then why is it such a challenge for us when it comes to our dating lives?
Why is it that what seems fairly black and white for us when we deal with other people's relationship issues on calls usually ends up being a giant mess for us as female police officers?
That puts him in an untenable position and may get him into trouble if his superiors find out about it.
This causes relational boundary issues that, especially when couples are dating and still getting to know one another, create tension when the partner isn't comfortable with the woman being an officer.
It's like saying to her, "I really like you, except this one big part of you that happens to be paying the bills." Several officers have explained to me that this makes them feel completely unappreciated, as if what they do as female police officers doesn't count.
Don’t pressure her to talk about things if she doesn’t want to – a police officer's job can entail some pretty horrific incidents – but let her know that she can talk to you about anything if she wishes.
When she decides to talk, listen to everything she has to say and let her know that you’re there for her. You may be dating a cop, but that doesn’t mean you can use his influence to skirt minor areas of the law.