Dating older wemen
I think my turn-ons are all very healthy and not particularly complicated – but I do find something awe-inspiring as well as alluring about older women: older women who are confident and assertive; who know what they want sexually and are unafraid to tell you – rather than expect you to psychically unravel their feminine mystique like some erotic code cracker.’ Another online friend, Big Dave, a forty-something in Dubai, feels the older women love too. *books flight to Dubai via Wales* John, 35, from Milton Keynes, is hearing this too.
‘I don’t believe all that tosh about Freud and mummy issues, and I never went to public school… Now I’m in my 40s, I find them interesting, more relaxed and more experienced in life, love, travel and sex. I also love them in leopard print – but that’s another story…’ Someone’s been looking in my wardrobe…
When it comes to younger men dating much older women, there's a whole different set of power dynamics at play.
Here, men who have dated much older women explain what it was really like."Dated a lovely woman that was exactly twice my age. She’d been through a terrible, abusive marriage, and had three grown children, two of which were older than me.
Age gap relationships are something society seems to be obsessed with.
But, often it's the younger woman/older man combo people are interested in.
I hated how they treated her and it became a source of contention for us.
"Sexually, we were great at first, but that changed quickly as she went through menopause.
If I were 42 when she was 48, there wouldn't be much difference to notice.
HE’S GOT A MUMMY FIXATION AND SHE, THE PREDATORY BITCH, IS SLEAZY AND SLY. ‘They write, work in film, dabble in music and are super-interesting. Men of my generation pay lip service to the idea of liking strong women but tend to fall back on stereotypes and expect to be mothered. Younger men are also less sexually inhibited and more adventurous in bed. I got out my little black book (old-skool) and remembered none of my exes are talking to me – so I asked online instead.
These pore-less, firm-jawed men are clever, successful, creative, and absurdly hot.
*throws phone at where my personal assistant would be sitting if I could afford to have one* I’m going to breathe and calm myself down. Now I’m no longer angry at being kept out of the loop, I’m THRILLED that 48-year-old Super Naomi is (rumoured to be) seeing 25-year-old popster Liam. (Thank you.) As the creator of the word WHIP (Women who are Hot, Intelligent and in their Prime – or Primark if times are tough), I applaud these ‘finger up at society’ age-gap relationships. He’s mature, experienced and powerful, and she’s firm, fertile and fuckable. For me, it’s Twitter, not Tinder (or indeed toyboywarehouse.com) where I’m meeting them. You’d think the dates would be excruciatingly awkward, with cultural references tumbleweeding. We talk about our work, about what we’ve been up to, about politics/the world imploding, and we laugh. There is something very attractive about women who have real life experience – and the perspective and lack of fucks left to give that that brings.
They are men I would have killed to meet – but could never attract – when I was in my 20s and 30s. This is based on one man, really, so these are huge generalisations, but that’s my two cents’ worth! James, 42, from Wales: ‘I can only speak for myself but I am always drawn to women who are older than me.