If you want to attract a woman faster and have her more powerfully attracted to you, the optimal mix for a man who already has his fundamentals down (his body language, tonality, and basic inner game) and is interacting with a confident and attractive woman is 80% pull, 20% push. But more accurately, the optimal combination depends on how good the man’s fundamentals are and how confident the woman is.
It’s a continuum with the upper end of the continuum being 80-20 pull-push.
One very effective kind of pull technique is in conjunction with screening and qualifying.
If you’re confident and cool, then every qualification is actually a pull.
and when she starts to show any interest at all on the outside, I’m going to blow her off and make her prove to me that she wants me…
so I can reject her again.” When most guy think “cocky-funny,” they’re thinking this kind of cocky-funny, which is what I call, “Push Cocky-Funny.” This is my default style of cocky-funny, so I’ll give you one of my own examples.
I learned from a natural or dramatically exaggerated in what you say and in your facial expressions, tonality, and body language.
This took place near the coat check of a huge nightclub, which is just about the only place in the club where you can talk without speaking right into her ear.
For guys like this, it’s best to use the pull dynamic more often and save the push dynamic for that 20% of dramatic contrast. But for the most part, if your fundamentals are already strong, then: a) You can get much faster attraction by pulling her in more often than you can by pushing her away.
When you’re emotionally pulling a girl in by telling her to kiss you, she will have to work extra hard to resist. In fact, by pulling most of the time, when you do finally push her away, it’ll feel that much more powerful to her. (Pull #5) Her: (laughed) Me: (perking up and letting out a sly smile): Okay, give me your number. I took her number, we talked a little bit more, then I let her go back to her friends. You can’t imagine something like this working when you’re a beginner, but this is how top naturals with tons of confidence around women are able to get the girl excited and attracted so fast. In fact, I don’t even think that push was necessary.
Most girls like a strong, dominant, powerful, confident, charismatic guy, and many girls have the fantasy of “being taken” by such a man. If you’re a dominant guy, girls will feel pressure to follow your orders, and unless she’s very dominant herself, chances are good that she will NOT pull you in return every time. (Push #1) Her: (laughed) Me: (said nothing and continued looking fake-mad) Her: “Okay, bye,” and started walking off. I texted her about an hour later, and she texted back, asking what I was doing tomorrow. This sort of Pull Cocky-Funny can get you super fast makeouts and, as my natural friends have shown, club bathroom hookups. Among the community old-timers, Zan is probably the best representative of this kind of cocky-funny.
If both those elements are in place, then the fastest and most powerful route to sex is a mix of 80% pull-20% push.
[CAVEAT: If the man only has average fundamentals and the woman is only of average confidence in her own attractiveness and value, then the optimal mix is further down the continuum and closer to 50-50 push-pull..