16 year old dating advice internet dating a web of deceit
It depends a lot on the situation, you have to know the guy because honestly, I'm sure there are lots of 16-18 year old guys just take advantage and lots of guys in their twenties who genuinely want to be with you.You just have to use your judgement, and listen to friends and family and people who know him.She had told me about him a month ago, telling me that this really cute guy kept approaching her to talk with her. I tried talking with her about it but she was angry that I was ruining her fantasy and finally said ''Fine! '' which I trust about as much as I trust George W. Any feedback from parents who have been through this? Sign me as: conflicted mother My daughter started seeing a 15 year old boy (on the water polo team)when she was 15 and I had her keep her door open when he came over and requested that his parents do the same. I always ask her to be home by dark, no matter what she's doing, out of not wanting her to walk around alone at night because it's not safe. I offered to give him a ride home but he didn't want one. (There's a chance that he's a friend of a friend of a friend!However I sort of understand why it appears that there are double standards with the acceptance of very young males and older women, which probably is about the stereotype that younger girls are more likely to forge powerful emotional attachments in relationships than males, which may make them vulnerable to deeper and lasting hurt.An older male may be associated with increased maturity and trust which adds another dimension of vulnerability for a younger girl.
For instance, having you slapped with a restraining order, for starters. Until he is of legal age to move out, support himself, and do as he pleases, they may as well be as gods to him.
( And yes, we've been addressing the low esteem for years.)She has no experience with dating. I say I could get behind that better if he would stop commenting on her physical beauty and if she would stop gushing. When she saw him I kept my cell phone on and when they were alone for the first time and he was pressuring her for sex, she called me and I picked her up immediately. I think it's a matter of what you are comfortable with and what she wants too.
I find myself in the unsettling position of wanting to say very conventional things like ''An 18 year old boy only has one thing in mind.'' And then I feel bad. Older guys pick on younger, more vulnerable girls because it's harder for them to say no. They mostly spent time together at school, at lunch, or met before school for coffee. I told her that I wanted to meet him before they went ''out'' anywhere. Just make sure she knows that she can call you anytime and you will pick her up. That way she might talk to you about any things she doesn't know how to handle.
Also be aware that if he IS after an actual relationship it's likely to feel more serious, because due to your ages he'll have had a lot more experience with relationships and just life in general.
If it's a 16 year old girl and a 23 year old guy, the general consensus will be that he is "creepy" and clearly a "pedo" even though the girl is of legal age.. When I hear about this kind of thing I always wonder what the hell is wrong with the older person which means they can't get/are not attracted to people their own age.